Author Archives: Elaine Mofokeng

To surrender all must be the hardest thing I have had to do. My life took twists and turns that stretched me, my faith and my relationship with God, people and self. I reached that point where I was like “Lord if one more thing happens I’ll lose every neuron in my brain!”. And asContinue reading “The Father’s Love: Inner Peace”

I dont actually remember the exact time I decided I was ready to share my heart. I think it was a gradual process. What I do remember is that I refused to be in a relationship until I knew my worth and what my contribution would be. There is so much power in that. IfContinue reading “Relationships: Open To Love”

There is unfortunately no guide on how to build your life from scratch that works 100%. Most of what we know about new territory is through trial and lots of errors! Single mom and woman is a title I had never desired for myself, yet it was my reality. One of the challenges of beingContinue reading “Relationships: Navigating New Territory”

Who but God can truly know the heart of men? Imagine your heart breaking in ways you cant even articulate… After the anger and shame I cried and cried and cried until literally no tears were left. I cried for the ex, for me and the us that never was and never would be. IContinue reading “Relationships: Grief”

I’m the eldest of two daughters. The age gap between my sister and I is almost 8 years. This means we never quite played together and by the time she was born I had come to “my own”. My mother’s name is Grace. She is in every sense graceful. While she couldn’t relate to whatContinue reading “Relationships: Mothers, fathers and sisters”

I’m generally not a “bubbly” kinda girl. I’m polite, but just not “bubbly”. So it’s very difficult for any human to approach me. That was my “saving grace” in hiding from people. I was fine with my solitude and humans just irritated me. It was about a few months after the divorce and I wasContinue reading “Relationships: The loving friends”

After dealing with Shame, I dealt with its treacherous friend Anger.. I was more angry at myself than the ex.. How could I, the psychologist in training allow myself to be in such a rubbish situation? The fierce, independent me had allowed herself to be in this state? I was beyond livid! So I startedContinue reading “Relationships: Anger is a self-consuming fire”

I would be dishonest if I didn’t share the not so pleasant stuff experienced right after the divorce. But first let’s take a step back.. I had one of those “mooi van ver” marriages. From far we were so in love but for those who decided to take a closer look the cracks were biggerContinue reading “Relationships: The Shame”

Sometimes there are things we need to heal from through writing. I’m one of those people. My blog posts are themed and I hope as you read, you can identify how God’s faithfulness is evident in my imperfect life. I decided to start with the Relationships theme. I just love LOVE. I love the conceptContinue reading “Relationships: The beginning”